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More Reverse Meta Model Patterns

Lost Performative 

“Lost Performative” is a category within the meta-model in which evaluative statements (where something is judged as “good” or “bad”) don’t the identity the person doing the evaluating. A natural Meta-model response would be “Says who?”

As a meta model example, if someone said, “It’s good to eat pizza.” You might respond, “Really? Who says so?” or “According to whom?”

For our purposes as hypno-guides, when we reverse the meta model and purposefully violate the rules, we can say things like, “That’s right, trance does feel good.” The client is left to challenge the statement (“Who says trance feels good? Let me see the data supporting your claim.”) but they usually won’t. Therefore they are accepting your suggestion, expressed in the form of a presupposition.

“It’s so nice to relax, let go and let someone else do the talking for a while.”

“It’s not imperative to keep your eyes open, and you can close them, now.”

Or in a business or sales situation (you see, I haven’t forgotten you), you could say something like,

“It’s good to feel secure in a new car.”

It’s best to practice your own patterns to really own these skills. I’d strongly suggest you stop, write out several of your own that you could use this week, and use them. Use them with your clients, of course, and also throughout your everyday activities, with co-workers, friends, news boys (It’s good to stay off the grass), etc. And listen for the meta model violations in other people’s language. It’s fun!

About Doug O'Brien

Doug O’Brien is a Master Practitioner and Trainer of NLP, and a Certified Hypnotherapist. In 1988, while assisting at NLP and NAC training seminars with Anthony Robbins, Doug achieved the designation of Master Trainer. He now conducts numerous seminars of his own around the globe (specializing in the “Sleight of Mouth” patterns of Robert Dilts, NLP Certification Courses, and Ericksonian Hypnotherapy) and helped found Columbia-Presbyterian’s Department of Complementary Medicine with Dr. Mehmet Oz.

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