Negative Commands/Suggestions


Negative Commands/Suggestions

Ericksonian Hypnotic Language Patterns

Negative Commands/Suggestions
Before we look further at this category of language pattern a quick word…
By the term “Negative Suggestion” we don’t mean something nasty. We’re not in the business of suggesting negative things to people, like suggesting to someone that their nose will fall off.
What we’re instead doing is giving a positive suggestion hidden within something that sounds like you’re not saying that.
Confused? Great. So glad I could help.

Maybe this will be better…
The brain doesn’t compute negations. If you say to someone, “Don’t think of the color purple,” what do you suppose they begin to think about? What color are you thinking about? So you can direct your listener’s attention by saying “don’t do” exactly what you’d like them to do.

A. Don’t _____too quickly (or too soon)…

“Don’t use these language patterns too soon to empower others now.

“Don’t go into a trance too quickly, Monde.”

B. I wouldn’t tell you to _______, because…
(more about the word ‘because’ in future entries.)

“I wouldn’t tell you to practice these patterns everyday, because you might just get too good.’

“I wouldn’t tell you to go into a trance now, because it’s important for you to discover for yourself how quickly or slowly is right for you.”

C. I could tell you that_____ but…

“I could tell you that learn these patterns will be far easier and fun than you probably imagine, but I would rather let you enjoy that discovery yourself.”

This is another great way to avoid resistance. (Note also that in this example we have sacrificed correct grammar so the sake of a good command.)

Now, I wouldn’t tell you to write your own examples, because as you discover your best way of learning, you’ll know the best way to learn is by doing. Write them out. Practice. Say them aloud to a human being with the proper tonal shift.

I could tell you to go out there and use them, but I know you’d rather see for yourself.

About Doug O'Brien

Doug O’Brien is a Master Practitioner and Trainer of NLP, and a Certified Hypnotherapist. In 1988, while assisting at NLP and NAC training seminars with Anthony Robbins, Doug achieved the designation of Master Trainer. He now conducts numerous seminars of his own around the globe (specializing in the “Sleight of Mouth” patterns of Robert Dilts, NLP Certification Courses, and Ericksonian Hypnotherapy) and helped found Columbia-Presbyterian’s Department of Complementary Medicine with Dr. Mehmet Oz.

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